This prevents bitching and complaining about your current situation which leads to zero results. You cannot change people or any situations around you at this moment. However you can change your mindset which leads you to finding different doors to open, leading to further growth. The moment you find yourself saying "If only I had a few more dollars to buy XYZ" or "They have it better than me because XYZ". Stop yourself, recalibrate your mind and refocus on the outcome you want, and push yourself in that direction.

No excuses and no transfering of blame. Whatever the situation, you accept responsibility and work to fix it. No more: "I was too tired to clean the room", "Traffic was too intense and I arrived late", "If John had finished sooner I could have completed my work" From this point forward, these turn into actionable results: "I'll jump on cleaning the room now.", "I'll start leaving earlier to get here in time" and "I'll followup with John on the next assignment to make sure we're aligned on time."

• To an issue you've taken responsibility for by asking yourself what and how you can improve in this instant.
• To any ideas or plans you've been holding out on. The Universe waits for nobody. Procrastination leads to longer and longer delays in your forward movement. Take the first step as quickly as possible. Focus on the MVP (Minimum Viable Product) and work your way up.

Essentially, never settle. You should never reach a point where you say to yourself "ok I'm at the top, I'm done." It's impossible! Keep working on yourself whether it be physically, emotionally, or mentally.

For example: “I can't do this", or "I'm not good enough". This is typical for those who compare themselves to others. There will always be someone better or not as great as you. You have a skillset right now that someone needs. Seek outt wher this can be applied.

Instead compare yourself to only you and keep setting newer and better personal goals, always seeking personal improvement. As in rule 5, there will always be someone better than you, or even less skilled than you. It's fine to look outside oneself, however do not use it to compare.

Try to stop thinking that you’re failing and instead consider that you're constantly learning and improving. Life is about constantly learning, growing and evolving. Fail fast so you can learn and move forward quicker.

What's your next goal, the next level, the next path to follow? Rule 4 is to seek personal improvement, this is to seek improvement in everything around you. For example, moving up the corporate ladder at your place of employment.

Apologize if you've made a mistake, however do not apologize to seek approval. Your goal is to apologize, and follow up with rule 1 and 2, and 3. People will often apologize to get attention and approval without genuinly meaning it. It's almost an instinctive reaction. For example: "Sorry to bother you, ....", "Sorry but did you say..."

This does nothing to move you forward and typically just pisses people off because it's noticed. Be open, polite and direct and you will get the results you were hoping for. No one enjoys passive agressive attitudes so work hard to stop doing this.

Learn to understand the person standing in front of you. This isn't your time to psychologically breakdown the person in front of you, but rather to pick up on their subtle cues. Is one of their foot pointing away towards a door, they might be wanting to leave. Arms crossed, maybe they're feeling more reserved, etc...

This goes with Rule 4. Constantly ask yourself why you're acting a certain way. This will reveal much about yourself and others. Some people do things and don't even realize their actions, then wonder why their life is vibing a certain way. Almost as if people run autonomously even though they think they're making real descisions. Stop, pause and reflect on your actions. This can be in the moment, or at the end of a day.

The minute you learn something new, call/text/message a friend/family members/anyone interested, and just teach them what you've learned. You'll retain much more information the minute you start teaching and explaining what you've learned to someone else

This won't resolve anything and will not help you achieve your goals. We're human, so it's normal to instinctively complain or whine in the moment. However do not let this drive you. Make it a passing moment, focus on rule number 1 and it will allow you to move forward. Look for results, look for ways to open doors to achieve your goals. For example: Every moment you're thinking about the negative, is another minute you're not working on a solution.

Emotions run the same wavelength as chaos. If left uncontrolled, they can wreak havoc on you and those around you. Instead work at understanding WHY you're experiencing a certain emotion. This exercise leads to amazing personal growth and amazing self control.

Your football/basketball/soccer coach wasn't passive aggressive, and wasn't trying to "beat around the bush", so why should you? Imagine if they had been, how difficult it would have been to understand them and grow. People appreciate honesty because it's genuine. Delivering that honesty should be done in the most emiotnally intelligent manner possible. "Hey you're really working super slow this week, speed up!" versus "Hey, I noticed you're a bit slower than usual this week. Is everything ok, can I help in any way?"

Whenever possible, lead and guide those around you. The more positive the direction, the more you will reap the benefits in return. (Law of attraction)

They're not to be placed on a pedestal but instead to be inspected and gauge if such a person or relationship is worthy of your time. This is not to say that you're almighty, however you must set your standards. Knowing what you want and don't want is a very attractive trait. Also, remember that your girlfriend is not your mom and your boyfriend is not your dad. It's not the same type of love. Live for you and your significant other. Do not live for your significant other, giving yourself only a small portion of time for yourself.

Work on trying not to take on someone else's pain when/if you potentially caused it. Each person deals with emotions differently so you can never tell exactly what they are thinking or feeling. While you might fear they are hurt by what you might have said or done. They have not even been bothered. Allow them to express themselves or you might be unncessarily lost in your own thoughts for a long time.

Instead focus on what you enjoy doing passionately. People will notice and follow passion over trying to impress them.

Have stories you can tell. Jokes, etc... The more interesting you are, the more people will come to you instead of the other way around. Don't ask why YOU have to do this. Rule #1 accept it as the way it is and work around that.

You must learn to think and move outside the box in a way that's understood and predictable. You cannot be 100% unpredictable where your peers will not know what or how you will react to a situation. Instead, have them get used to knowing that you will react within a certain gamut, a certain range. This allows peers to include you into situations that they would not include the completely unpredictable person. 100% unpredictable is someone who you know would take off their pants randomly in a situation where it's completely unacceptable, versus someone whom you know might be unpredictable and speak out to a joke or say nothing, or wear a burger king hat on his head for a joke. Essentially something that's funny and not out of line or stir commotion. All of which is in a more predictable and acceptable manner.

Allow yourself to hear what someone is saying, but always follow their actions to ensure execution. This will tell you if they're serious about what they're talking about.

Our conscious mind can only process so much information at one time. So, while your senses might be taking in millions of bits of data, it filters out most of it and only keeps a certain amount of what it feels is relevant based on your map of the world (see NLP). Your subconscious however picks up everything. So while the logic and conscious mind might have seen nothing, your subconscious might have picked up something in the background and you're "gut" is letting you know that something is not right.